By Steve Goodier

One woman describes herself as "Five feet, three inches tall and pleasingly plump." After she had a minor accident, her mother accompanied her to the hospital emergency room. The admitting nurse asked for her height and weight, and she blurted out, "Five-foot-eight, 125 pounds."

The nurse pondered over this information and looked over the patient. Then the woman’s mother leaned over to her and gently chided, "Sweetheart, this is not the Internet." If you could change your appearance in life as easily as you can make one up on the Internet, would you remake yourself? We live in an age when people are increasingly dissatisfied with their bodies. They want liposuction, face lifts, tummy tucks, silicon implants and cosmetic surgery – too often for no other reason than to look like someone else!

And don't think I am only talking about women. Men too place great emphasis on their bodies. Studies show that in 1972, one in six men didn't like their appearance; today, almost 50% of men surveyed reported being unhappy with their looks. According to the book THE ADONIS COMPLEX New York: The Free Press, 2000), more and more men are feeling insecure about their appearance. In 1996, over 700,000 men had some cosmetic surgery – often in an unhealthy attempt to fix a perceived flaw that nobody else noticed. Eating disorders and steroid abuse are all too common among males.

Authors Harrison Pope, Katharine Phillips, and Robert Olivardia did an experiment in which men were asked to take a computer image of an ordinary man and add muscle mass to him until he was the size these men wanted to be. On average, the men packed about 28 more pounds of muscle mass on the computer image; women, on the other hand, only added a negligible amount of muscles to the image to create their ideal guy.

Poet Khalil Gibran said, "Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart." When we choose to believe that our most attractive qualities lie within, we can let go of those unrealistic expectations of our bodies. Care for your body; you'll keep it for the rest of your life. Be thankful for it and treat it well. But remember, the real you, the essence of you, cannot be improved by a bottle, a pill or a salon. It is a beautiful and glorious light shining from your heart to the heart of the world. Cherish it. And let it shine.

--- About the Author ---

Steve Goodier Publisher@LifeSupportSystemis a professional speaker, consultant and author of numerous books. Visit his site for more information, or to sign up for his FREE newsletter of Life, Love and Laughter at

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